Leading the Passive Resistive through Listening (Proverbs 26:12-15)

Do you have a passive resistive person in your life? The fourth difficult person is the people-oriented passive resistive. He is inactive and immovable. The fact that he is people-oriented, means that he can be averse to task and be nice about it. Consequently, his passive resistance makes him indirect in his difficult behavior — […]


Leading the People Pleaser through Listening: Graciously Support Him in the Wisest Direction (Proverbs 4:11; 24:11; 1 Thessalonians 5:14)

Have you ever noticed how the people pleaser in your life has a tendency to agree with almost everyone? The people pleaser is weak in willpower, and his desire for significance apart from Christ leads him to be a chameleon as he continually adjusts his values to accommodate whomever he is with at the moment. […]


Leading the People Pleaser Through Listening: Don’t Give In (Proverbs 26:24-25, 28)

The people pleaser uses flattery to gain an advantage. When he does, we are often tempted to give in because we like what we hear. Flattery comes from the Hebrew word for smooth. Designed to snag its target, flattery is a smooth way to capture the heart and life of another person (Proverbs 29:5). Flattery […]


Leading the People Pleaser through Listening: Don’t Be Gullible (Proverbs 26:23; 14:15)

Exaggeration is a powerful tool leveraged by the people pleaser. Distorted facts, recollections that stretch the imagination, and embellished stories all cleverly mishandle the truth. Solomon said: “Like a coating of glaze over earthenware are fervent lips with an evil heart” (Proverbs 26:23). Just like that coating of glaze over earthenware makes the outside look […]


Leading the People Pleaser through Listening: Don’t Gossip (Proverbs 20:19, 26:20, 22)

Why is gossip so enticing? The more we speak, the more likely we are to gossip. This is a looming risk when we interact with the people pleaser. The people pleaser often speaks and thinks later. We need to be careful not to do the same. Gossip is unnecessary talk about others. It often includes […]